For most Filipinos, being invited to a wedding comes with the unspoken rule of bringing a gift for the couple. Whether the relationship you have with the couple is old or new, it may be a challenge to pick an appropriate wedding gift. A lot of guests find it easier if they could just go up to the couple to ask, but this is not a generally accepted part of our Filipino gift-giving culture. Being upfront or bold about gift wishes is not a typical Filipino attribute. This is why having a gift registry works! A registry provides a way of letting the wedding guests know what the couple wants without sending a demanding vibe, and it makes gift-selection for the guests easier than it usually is.
However, having a registry in itself is useless if your guests do not know the wish list you've created through the bridal gift registry. With that, here are some suggestions on how you can spread the word:
1. Send a personalized e-mail. I know what you're thinking -- "An email? Seriously? No one checks their emails anymore!" Contrary to popular belief, people still do check their e-mails. And the online wedding registry at SM Store allows you to add a personal note to the available online form. With a few extra clicks, you can send an e-mail to your guests about your wedding registry. This will contain a code which is used to view your wishlist online or at their nearest SM Store.
2. Post it on social media. For those guests who have e-mails but do not check them, this is the next best place online to reach them. Whether you post this as a status or as a tweet, make sure you don't sound like a gift-hungry bride or groom. Say something like, "We're excited to build our new home together. For those of you who are with us on this journey, [insert link to wedding registry and code]." We share everything on social media anyway. Why not use it for your wedding preparations?
3. Link it on your wedding website. For the tech-savvy or the save-mother-earth kind of couples, this is the most modern way to announce their wedding and invite their guests. Not only do they save costs on paper printing, the vast space of the internet is their canvas allowing for more creative ways of announcing all things wedding-related: from the venue to the attire; and obviously to gift preferences. This option may not work for all couples, but if you end up choosing this route, just don’t forget to link your registry in there.
4. There are many tactful ways to inform your guests about your registry. In letting others know about your registry, a bride or a groom should never let go of tact and all things proper. This you have to keep in mind when it comes to placing certain information on your wedding invitations. For most, it is an acceptable practice to include the registry details in a bridal shower primarily because the point of that event is to "shower" the bride with gifts. Hence, it is actually a convenience to the shower guests to get a hold of the registry details. However, wedding invitations are trickier because some people consider it rude as if hearing the couple say, "We're inviting you to our wedding... now, let's discuss the gift you're going to give us." There is no clear rule about it. We suggest for the couple to evaluate your guest list and decide together if the general majority would find this announcement acceptable or not.
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5. Good ol' word of mouth. This is how the Bible began to be preserved. This is why we know so much of our history even before the papyrus was invented. The mouth-to-ear media is the human race's tried and tested way of communicating. Nothing beats the human tongue when it comes to getting the word out.
So, to announce your wedding registry, wait for the opportunity to bring it up in a conversation with your guest -- listen for cues when you're handing them the invitation, or when you're on the phone with a guest and your upcoming wedding is brought up in the conversation. Better yet, get your close family and friends to spread the word for you. This may even spark ideas of pooling funds together to purchase for you that more expensive wish list item.
The last thing a couple wants is to have a gift-hoarding reputation before their wedding. With the right words and the right medium, you and your guests can make the gift-giving portion of your wedding less of a burden and more of a breeze.
Meryll is rarely invited to a wedding to simply be a guest. She is almost always invited to take the floor -- either as wedding singer, a host, a bridesmaid, or the go-to wedding organizer (although she admits there are a lot of people better qualified for this task). A wedding jack-of-all-trades, so to speak, and curious as to whether someday, she will be the bride. Regardless, Meryll finds her identity in Jesus Christ. She enjoys reading the Bible and serving in her local church. A twenty-something who spends most of her weekdays working in business development and marketing for a multinational law firm, she says writing and making music help keep her sane and serve as her mind-tools against burnout.
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